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Topic: Am I a neurotic mother?
Posted: 08 Aug 2016 at 4:25am
Since I gave birth my daughter, Scarlett, has been the joy of my life.

I always thought that I would be an easy going mum. But now that I actually am a mother, I find that I am constantly wracked with fear and worry.

Granted, some of these could perhaps be described as reasonable, for example ear infections. Others might see me more inline with the loony bin, for example earlier this winter, I keep thinking a bee is going to come and sting my daughter at any second whenever we were out in the garden. Even I know that there are no bees in February!?!?!? So why am I behaving this way? Am I neurotic?

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Direct Link To This PostPosted: 08 Aug 2016 at 6:52am
Neurotic may be too strong Maria. I would say you are a perfectly normal mother with perfectly normal parental instincts to protect your child from harm.

When my first was born I was taking him out for some air in his stroller when we stood waiting at the sidewalk for the lights to change. An elderly gentleman, who I assume was homeless, peeked down into the stroller and saw my son. It was hard to hear what he was saying but suddenly he put his hand in to touch his face. I know he meant no harm and was clearly happy to see a baby but my whole body went into a spasm. The thought of his dirty hands touching my son's face. My mind was racing. What kind of germs has he just passed onto my son? What if he has infected my son with some disease?

I pulled away and almost knocked over a lady as I rushed to the corner and started washing his face and hands frantically with antibacterial wipes. I went straight to a drop in centre and asked if a doctor could examine my son. Without thinking when asked what was wrong and his symptoms I said, "A homeless man just touched him".

The reaction from the receptionists face said it all. At first I was puzzled then I thought about what I just said. "Oh my god. I'm being neurotic aren't I?" The receptionist just smiled and politely said, "Maybe a little".
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Direct Link To This PostPosted: 08 Aug 2016 at 8:00am
Oh my lord....I would have done exactly the same thing. I would have rushed straight to the ER and demanded some blood tests. How dare a complete stranger just assume that it is perfectly ok for him to put his hands all over your baby?

I always use the rain cover on our stroller whenever I take out my son. People can look in but they cannot reach in.

Love, Joyce
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Direct Link To This PostPosted: 08 Aug 2016 at 8:06am
My mother in law is always telling me to calm down and relax.

Whenever my son is on a climbing frame or close the edge of anything I get full of fear, race after him and try to grab him. She just stands there and laughs at me saying I need to calm down and small children have to learn to fall down. But for some reason I always see him breaking an arm or a leg, or worse, and I would have to admit that yes, perhaps I am a little neurotic. That said, we've never had to go to the hospital or ER with any injuries so maybe it is fine to be a little overprotective?
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Direct Link To This PostPosted: 08 Aug 2016 at 12:07pm
It happens to each of us Maria and do not believe any parent who tells you they were not neurotic or obsessed with their child during their first years as a new born, infant, toddler and then child. Actually, we never stop worrying about our kids. EVER!

When my son was born, my whole family came round with their kids to see him. While everyone was dying to hold him, I was terrified that he might contract something since he hadn't had his first shots. My mother sensed my anxiety and asked what was wrong? I would rather no one touch him yet I said, at least wash your hands or used an anti-bac hand wash or something first.

My mother looked at me like I was an alien and turned to my family and said "She does not want anyone to touch the baby unless you wash your hands first with soap and scrub your nails and wear a gown".

My mother, being sarcastic, obviously.

My sisters started laughing and one came over and put her hand on my shoulder and said, "You know Jane, there was a time when babies were born in fields and in the mud and they still survived. I think he will be ok." Then she picked him up and without meaning to I let out a little scream. I thought it was an inner scream but it wasn't and everyone just looked at me like I was crazy. At the very least neurotic.

So do not believe anyone who ever tells you they were not at least a little crazy and obsessed with their child's health after they were born. Every parent is and so they should be. It is called parental instincts.


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