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Topic: Young Couple Want To Offer A Foster Home
Posted: 01 Oct 2016 at 1:46am
A year ago we lost our son in an accident.

We were both devastated and the pain is something we live we everyday.

A few years ago I was sterilized so we can't have more children, but we really need a small one to fill the hole we have in our lives. I think there must be hundreds of thousands of children in care and we would just love to give one a space in our home.

Are there any foster parents here and if so should we just contact Child Protection Services to find out how we can become foster parents or is there another way to start the process?

Alison
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It really differs from state to state Alison.

But I think the real question is are you and your husband thinking about this for the right reasons?

I cannot imagine how it must feel to lose a child. I really cannot. And anyone can understand that it must leave a terrible hole and a terrible emptiness which might be replaced by another child.

I cannot imagine your pain Alison, but I could imagine that one thing as unique as a child could never be replaced by another. Which is why I wonder if you and your husband are really thinking about becoming a ward for he right reasons?

When I read what I write I sound horrible I know. I sound like I am trying to discourage you and your husband but this is really not my intention. Please believe me. I just wonder if the pain of loss that could not easily be replaced by another could potentially hurt you both?
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It is a valid point from Strand Alison.
Becoming a ward is about offering a home and shelter, love and opportunities to a child who may otherwise not have any. But it is so much more than this. It is about knowing that the child you eventually foster will not be the same or replace the one that you and your husband have sadly lost. And I will pray for your child.

The child that you foster may have been through a very traumatic experience. May be difficult communicate with. Certainly, he or she will be a lot older than the child that you lost I would imagine so the "moulding" of the minor is difficult since previous experiences have influenced that process already.

There are pre-parent training classes available for you when you want to apply to become a ward and depending upon where you live (I did not see it in your profile), then these classes can last for a couple of weeks to a couple of months. They really help orientate you and assess you honestly if you are doing this for the right reasons and what you can expect if you are successful in your application.

Do be prepared for a kind of "due diligence". Review of your police history/ criminal record, letters of reference, confirmation of your salary/ income and such things. As well as various pre-screenings that will be required with your case worker in order to assess your application.

Whatever the outcome and whatever you decide Alison, I wish you both all the love and luck in the world and offer my sincerest condolenscies for the loss of your little one.

Love, Joyce
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